The open and closed guard

Based upon some past advice I once gave. I figured this Sunday would be as good as time bring up the open and closed guard. No, I am not talking about our beloved Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, but the relationships we have with significant others, family and friends. The Open and Closed guard is based on risk, trust and outcomes. I would not have learned the most important person in risk is me. So what works best for me. Trust is based on the expectation that something positive will happen. Trust is actually obtain from other people by outcomes. So anytime you take a risk you are looking for a positive outcome. Determining your own values and actions of trust, not others, leads to positive outcomes, I firmly believe this is the difference between looking back and reflecting on what two people accomplished and looking back with regret at what we wished we would have done. Which is why we open and close are guards with people.